The Virgin

How to Do the The Virgin Position

In a gentle, face-to-face position — typically a relaxed missionary or side-lying arrangement — movements are slow, careful, and exploratory, with frequent pauses to check in. This position is less about a specific physical arrangement and more about an unhurried, communicative approach: lots of eye contact, gentle touch, and a willingness to pause and adjust based on comfort.

Tips & Variations

Take your time — there is no destination to rush toward. Open communication about what feels good (and what does not) is the foundation of this approach. Lubrication and comfort should be prioritized, and pauses for reassurance are completely normal and encouraged. If nerves come up, talking through them openly often helps more than pushing past them in silence.

Who Is This Position Best For?

Couples having a first experience together, or anyone returning to intimacy after a long break who wants a gentle, patient, communication-focused approach. Also a great fit for couples who simply want to slow things down and rebuild a sense of trust and emotional safety together.