Gold Standard

How to Do the Gold Standard Position

She lies back comfortably, propped on pillows for a good view and easy breathing, with knees bent and relaxed open, while he kneels or lies between her legs, using a combination of steady rhythm, varying pressure, and attentive pacing — alternating between broad, slow strokes and more focused attention based on her responses. The "gold standard" comes from attentiveness: reading her reactions and adjusting accordingly rather than following a fixed pattern.

Tips & Variations

Comfort matters as much as technique — pillows under her head and knees help her relax fully. Pay attention to feedback, both verbal and physical, and be willing to slow down or change approach based on what is working. Patience and consistency tend to outperform variety for variety's sake.

Who Is This Position Best For?

Couples who prioritize her pleasure and want a reliable, communication-driven approach that can be adapted in the moment based on what feels best.