Oral Sex Positions

The best oral sex positions depend on the focus. For her pleasure, the Gold Standard (reclined with knees bent and relaxed open) and Strongest (hips elevated on pillows for maximum access) are standouts. For him, the Classic (face-to-face with full body contact) works well, while 69-style positions like the Booty Grab offer mutual pleasure.

Positions that let her relax completely and give the giving partner full access work best for her. The Gold Standard — lying back propped on pillows with knees bent and relaxed open — is widely loved because it combines comfort, access, and eye contact. The Kneeler, where he kneels in devotion while she sits relaxed, is another favorite.

Comfort comes from support and positioning. Use pillows under her head and knees so she can relax fully, add a cushion under the giving partner's knees if kneeling, and pick a position that doesn't strain either partner's neck or back. Communication about what feels good — and what doesn't — is the most important comfort factor.

The 68 is a variation of 69 where both partners lie in the same facing arrangement, but the focus is entirely on her pleasure — he gives full attention while she relaxes and receives, without the pressure to reciprocate simultaneously. It removes the pressure of mutual performance and lets her fully relax into sensation.