Holdover

How to Do the Holdover Position

This position emphasizes sustained, unhurried attention — one partner settles into a comfortable position (reclined, supported by pillows) while the other commits to a slow, patient pace without rushing toward any particular outcome, focusing on consistency and steady rhythm over an extended period. The "holdover" is in maintaining attention and patience longer than usual.

Tips & Variations

Comfort is critical for sustained positions — make sure both partners are well-supported with pillows before beginning. Consistency matters more than variety here; find a rhythm that works and maintain it patiently. Take breaks if needed — there is no rush. Set the scene for plenty of time: a closed door, phones away, and no pressing schedule afterward all help both partners settle into the slower pace this position rewards.

Who Is This Position Best For?

Couples who enjoy long, patient sessions and want to practice sustained attention and rhythm without rushing toward a quick conclusion. Especially good for partners who tend to rush during intimacy and want to deliberately practice slowing down together.